Choose Your Best Man Carefully It Will Pay

Being a best man is not a job for the faint-hearted. A best man has to be more than a public speaker. He has to be a good M.C., an excellent organizer and, preferably good at dancing with old aunts. Many couples choose the wrong M.C. for sentimental reasons. The groom chooses his brother or his best friend because of family ties or the loyalty of friendship. The truth of the matter is that neither of them might be a suitable choice.

If the best man is forgetful, for instance, he may forget the ring. There is a chance too he may forget some important part of the preparations such as which night you are having your rehearsal in church. If the best man is a shy kind of a person he will be useless at helping your guests feel and home or making them mix and mingle. The worst attribute of a best man is one who is unable to speak in public. His speech should set the tone for the wedding and if he hums and haws and doesn’t know what to say the guests will feel uncomfortable and so too will the bride and groom.

A best man needs to be cool and capable. He needs to be able to handle Uncle Joe if he has too much to drink or a guest who is taken ill suddenly. He has to be the kind of person who will ensure that you have the tickets for your honeymoon, that your wedding presents are safe and that the groom arrives at the church on time. Preferably too he should have a good relationship with the bride so that she feels that her big day will not be spoiled because of some oversight. She, as well as the groom, has to have confidence in him.

So when you are choosing a best man consider exactly what he has to do. Then ask your brother or your friend if they feel capable of the doing the job properly... Quite often they will be thankful to be spared the task and grateful if you choose someone else. It is an honour to be chosen as best man, of course, but it can also be a handicap for those who aren’t articulate or organised. So choose your best man with care and then relax.

Niamh Crowe
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