I Want My Wife Back – How To Survive An Affair

After an affair it's easy to say "I want my wife back", but when you have cheated what are the chances, if there are any, of getting her back? In this article we are going to discuss what makes us decide to have an affair, how having an affair can totally ruin lives and what is the singular most important thing you should do to survive an affair.

What is about having an affair that makes it so inviting? You may not be living the movie style love story that you dreamed of and some aspects of your relationship could possibly be better but why do we take that dumb opportunity to cheat so quickly. We don’t realize that if we mess around we will soon be saying “I’m sorry that I cheated and I want my wife back!” So why would we want to run the risk of destroying everything we’ve built up over a long time for “a bit on the side”?

Being attractive to the opposite ***, knowing that someone else "fancy's you", brings with it a rush of excitement that we all crave for. If we just enjoyed that attention and left it at that it would be fine. But there is always that time when we show a moment of weakness and step over that line. It may be at an office party or when you are away for a few days from your partner and someone gives you that little bit more attention than you have maybe been getting at home. There will be no thoughts that just a short way down the line you could be struggling to survive an affair. You will be merely enjoying your male ego being satisfied by this new attention.

A couple of drinks too many and you over step the mark. Then without realizing, it's too late and you wake up in the morning in bed with someone you don't even know; feeling dreadful and swearing to yourself you will never do it again. The worse thing is, you know you have let you partner down as well as letting yourself down. The chances are you were so drunk the night before that you probably can’t even remember what you did. So ask yourself “was it really worth it?”

Soon you stop feeling so bad about what you did and the worry of your partner finding out about it has gone. You got away with it. It’s just that one time and it will never happen again. Yeah right! Suddenly out of the blue a cheating opportunity presents itself again and being the focus of someone else's desires is too much to turn down. You got away with it before; you can get away with it again. She’ll never know. What harm can it do?

The cycle starts here and its vitally important that you see whats happening and take control or you will destroy your marriage. You can get away with it for so long but eventually you will be found out and your whole life will come crashing down around you like a pack of cards.

We only need too look at some of the most recent cases of celebrities cheating that we have seen in the newspapers or on television. Some of the celebrities that we all look up to have completely ruined theirs and their partners lives by cheating. From footballers to even one the world’s top golfers, they all seemed to think they could get away with it. But they all eventually end up telling themselves "I want my wife back". Money and fame should have made them bullet proof but having crazy affairs has made them all realize that they are only human. And getting caught out is just the beginning!

I read the transcript of one of the press releases that a golf celebrity gave recently. He was basically begging his wife and the world to forgive him! He accepted that it was totally reckless to do what he did and was saying to everyone what he was going to do to make things right. This was all well and good, but the most important lesson to be learned about how to survive an affair from this transcript was what his wife had said in return. She said the real apology to her will not come in the form of words; it will come from his behavior over time. Talk is cheap! Showing that you are willing to change and actually doing something about it is what really counts.

If you have been cheating on your wife or your partner and have been found out, this is a bad place to be in. Saying you are sorry for what you did is a start if you want to survive an affair but it's vital you approach things correctly. You need to let it be known that you are deeply sorry for the things you did, because talk is cheap and in this situation actions definitely speak louder than words. Even our favourite highly respected celebs make mistakes and acknowledge that they need help when saying “I want my wife back”. You need to understand that you will need help too if you want to save your relationship or your marriage!