Men: The Rescuers

"I want out!" Tears and screams punctuated Lily's accusations "You don't understand! You don't care! You - just - don't - get - it!!"

"You're the one who doesn't get it," Darryl yelled at her retreating back. "You never did. You're just a spoiled rotten brat. Always trying to change me. Well, I'm not changing. Get that? I'm not changing anything."

V:3 It didn't sound like it, but Darryl loved his wife dearly and wanted to save their marriage. In reality, he really did not get the point. He did not speak the same language that she was speaking to him. Lily was wrong about one thing, however. Her husband Daryll very much wanted to save their marriage, he was just clueless. He was like a blindfolded bullfighter. He knew he had an raging animal circling him for the kill, but he had no idea where it was or when it would gore him.

Lily was wrong about one thing, however. Darryl really did care - he just didn't know what to do about their fighting and deteriorating relationship. He was like a boxer in the ring - blindfolded. He knew he had an opponent, but had no idea who the opponent was and where the opponent would strike.

Lily, on the other hand, just couldn't comprehend why the man was unable to see what was so obvious to her. Instead of working things through so that they both got it, then, she nagged him. He had no idea what her problem was and why she was constantly nagging him. He reacted the wrong way which made her think, Why should we try to save this marriage? It's too painful.

Darryl's problem? He didn't have a translator. There was no one to tell him what to look for in his relationship with Lily and what it meant once he found it...if he did. He didn't have someone to translate her words, looks and emotions so that they made sense and he could rescue her and the situation. If he's had someone AND if he had taken action, then all the frustration and anger that he was directing at his wife could have been directed at the real problems instead.

Lily loved Darryl, too. Just as deeply as he loved her. But because she couldn't get through to him and he let the problems go on too long, he lost her. She walked out. V:3

He also understands at this point how to interpret that language. But instead of acknowledging that he blew it, he continues to point fingers at Lily, saying it was all her fault. Tragically, when he gets into his next relationship, even though he can now interpret the language being used, it's doubtful that he will take action, because of his refusal to take responsibility.

A man has a unique ability, not only to hold his marriage together, but to craft it so his wife remains in love with him and wouldn't choose any other guy if she had her pick of the hottest and handsomest. Ever man has the capacity to make any situation change for the better. All he has to do is get an interpreter so he can understand what is being said and, more importantly, what is not being said. THEN with that knowledge, he can take action.

Well, we're the interpreters here at Love Relationship Headquarters. We have seen what appeared to be the dumbest, most clueless jerks save their marriages and transform themselves into men their women would die for - once they used the correct rules of interpretation. Any man can save his marriage - even if he is clueless and insensitive!

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Dr. Vance Hardisty International Speaker and author Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author and Speaker Love Relationship Headquarters www.Loverelationshipheadquarters.com