How Do You Make A Girl To Fall For You

If you are a Brando or a Byron, you will have them swarming all over you anyway. To get a girl to love you is not your problem, and this article is not for you. Neither are you Rockefeller or Bill Clinton (money and power are powerful love potions). You are John, a pretty average guy in most ways, with maybe a few good points here and there. And you have set your heart on a certain Jill, maybe your class fellow or office co-worker. Jill is good looking and intelligent, no piece of cake asking to be eaten. And moreover, the competition is stiff and many are the necks that get twisted when she is in the vicinity. And you, John have done with pining and sighing and are thinking it is time for action now.

But so impossible are the pairings which have actually occurred that the safest rule one can confidently give is what may be called Golden Rule of George Bernard Shaw, which says the only golden rule is that there are no golden rules.

John has done his share of pining and sighing, and it is action time now. He has come to a point of decision and made up his mind about the damsel, to go all the way, even unto matrimony, if that is where the lane leads.

She occupies his thoughts, and his mind has started to strategize. Mary has become the hare, and John the benign but determined hound. What should he do to get her or catch her attention? Or make her to like him? It is an important question.

Sorry John, there are no formulae in the mating game. Wooing is a matter of the mind as much as of actions. It starts with a decision you arrive at in the depths of your mind. Getting swept off your feet is juvenile and does not get you anywhere.

Courtship, or the preliminaries of the human mating process, is a complex psychobiological phenomenon that no one understands properly. In simplistic terms it is like negotiating a big business deal and marriage or its first cousin, live-ins, are the clinching of the deal with or without signing papers. As in a deal, the parties put forth their merchandise to the best advantage. This was probably better understood in olden times, especially for marriages in the higher echelons.

Human relations are not all a process of barter. Love is concerned less with receiving than with giving. For the sake of others, for making her happy rather than for self aggrandization, we present the best of ourselves: our dress, our grooming, the paraphernalia of male and female cosmetics, our speech and education and even our financial strengths. Love is a two way traffic and to give is to receive.

If you want to get a girl to love you, the only true strategy is short and sweet: love her first, or learn to love. And then forge forward courageously, for to the brave belongs the world. Love is the only answer to many questions when it comes to girls and if you have figured that out, you have the girl.