When You Are Overwhelmed With Longing For Your Lost Love...step Back

It is human nature to try to stop any pain, and when that pain comes from a breakup the first reaction is probably "How do I get them back right now!?" You might start torturing yourself with "what ifs" and planning elaborate strategies on how to get them back in your life. Perhaps you are writing apology letters, exploring ideas on how you're going to change, and obsessing on what you can do to bring back the love...well the best advice you can take is to just slow down. You don't yet know the real reasons behind the breakup.

We all tend to react and often don't think of why, or can even say what's bothering us. So when you are obsessing over what caused the breakup, understand that your partner may not know themselves what triggered it. So don't direct all your energy into what went wrong. Put that on the shelf for the time being and forget about the relationship for awhile. Focus on going out, making new friends, having fun and try to forget about romance...just for a little while. Is this easy? No it is not, but it will pay off in the end.

Take some time to yourself. I know this is very difficult when dealing with a break up, however it is crucial! Work on yourself, develop some goals, learn about you! If you give yourself a couple of months to grow and change, it will work wonders and set you up for success in your relationship. After a couple of months, you will have a fresh perspective and be ready to proceed.

You may find, to your shock, that the relationship has run its course and you don't want to get back together. However, if that is not the case and you still feel the desire to reunite, it is now time to figure out how they feel about you.

Now is the time to be a little more direct with your ex when it comes to the possibility of getting back together. It's now time to find out just how they are feeling about you. You need to play this right. Do not, I repeat, do not simply beg them to get back together with you! This is not the time for wild emotions!

Now is the time to play it cool. They may be missing you as much as you are missing them. Show them that you are doing fine and play a little hard to get...but be careful! Playing too hard to get is a mistake! You've grown and changed and hopefully so have they, so if getting back together is really meant to be, it will quickly become apparent.

Love is what drives us, it's also a game. A game of give and take, hold and let go, and ultimately our destiny when we find our true partner. Play the game well!