5 Ways To Get Back At Your Ex Without Losing Them For Good

Relationships are sometimes easy and sometimes hard. At their very best, things just seem to connect and flow without hardly any effort. At their worst, things seem like a never ending mess of discontent and unrest. If you are going through a difficult time in your relationship and have recently gone through a break up, it may be that you are wanting to get back at your ex. Perhaps you've been thinking of ways to hurt him or make him feel the pain as you have. That's a normal reaction, however, it may not be the best thing to do. Maybe it's time to reflect back on your relationship and do some old fashioned soul searching. If you really want to get back at your ex, maybe there's a better way to do it than trying to find ways to hurt them. Think back to when you first met, what was it that you both enjoyed about each other? What were you doing when you first met? What made him attracted to you? One of the best things to do to get back at your ex, is to remind them of what they loved about you in the first place. Make him remember what attracted him to you. Make him miss those things about you! Here are 5 tips that will not only get back at your ex, but may also help you get your ex back.

1. Back off and keep your distance. This may seem like the exact opposite of what you are trying to accomplish, but actually it can be a good thing. By backing off and minimizing communication, you will be giving both of you a break and time to cool down and think about things. Let them "stew" awhile and wonder what you are doing. Let him realize how important you really are.

2. Be flexible. Don't be demanding and insist that they move out immediately or come and get their things right away. Just chill. Learn to be a better listener when you do communicate to each other. Be willing to be empathetic and willing to compromise. Imagine how your ex will feel when you are no longer yelling or demanding things. Suddenly your ex will see you in a different light.

3. Be strong. This is difficult when your heart is broken, but it's important to do when you are working on the other things that you need to do. Being clingy and needy is not attractive and will only push your ex further away! Don't show your sad, depressed side. Show your confident, new side. This will make your ex realize that you can make it on your own and that you are moving on with or without him. This will make your ex see that you don't need them to be happy, and if he wants to keep your relationship, he better snap into action. It's human nature to be attracted to a confident, strong person that appears to be a challenge.

4. Live again! By this I mean, get out and enjoy yourself! Reconnect with old friends, meet new ones, and start living again. Sometimes you can lose yourself in a relationship and forget who you really are. That leads to unhappiness and resentment which eventually cause problems in your relationship. Get out, do the things you always wanted to do but didn't. By doing this, it will not only heal your heart and soul, but it will also help you focus on YOU. It will help you take the focus off of your ex and help you stop being so dependent on him. Your ex will see that you are out having fun and doing new things and will see that they lost a special person.

5. Just be YOU. Don't try to be someone you aren't. Just be who you are. Learn to be comfortable and happy by yourself. This is one of the most important, if not the most important step. If you are not happy with yourself and happy within, you will never be happy in a relationship! No one else can make you happy, it is up to you to be happy on your own. When you are truly happy with yourself, you will attract the right person who will share your happiness. Your ex will remember who you really are and why he loved you in the first place.

Relationships are not always easy and they do take work. Sometimes, it's easy to lose yourself in the day to day things and forget what is really important to each other. It is not impossible to make a relationship work and it is possible to get your ex back if you want to really work at it. The tips included in this article are just a few simple tips, there are many other things that you can do to get back at your ex and at the same time get your ex back! An excellent resource that you can use to help you get your ex back is a book entitled "The Magic of Making Up", it is one of many books on the subject, and you can visit our website to find it and many more links and resources.