Getting Over Your Ex - Breaking The Pattern

In order to know where you're going, you must first know where you are. If I asked you how to get to New York, you wouldn't be able to give me directions without knowing my starting point. But if I told you that I was in Los Angeles and needed to get to New York, you could then provide me with specific directions. That's how it is on your path of personal recovery.

Once you determine that someone is toxic to you and the life you want to live, you have to make some tough choices. Why do people choose to stay with someone who is unhealthy for them. The answer was simple: comfort. Every day, people choose over and over again to stay in a situation that make then miserable, because it offers comfort from having to provoke change. Isn't that amazing? Millions of people remain completely miserable, yet afraid of change. Maybe this describes you. Do you fear, or embrace change? In casual conversation, we all profess to be adventurous in some capacity, and to embrace change. But the fact is, it's much more challenging than we like to admit to step outside of the familiar into the unknown. That is why so many people stay in dysfunctional, unhealthy relationships, feeling miserable and stuck. It's easy to justify and blame on circumstances, but the reality is, change is difficult and emotionally challenging. But, maybe you're ready for change.

You made the decision for change, or maybe the decision was made for you. Whatever the case, it's important to acknowledge that often change is actually for the better. At this point, you may not be able to see or feel the benefit of your personal change, and I'm sure it feels like hell. But the only way to get through this personal hell is to go into it, through it, and out of it.

You might be thinking, this sounds great, Jason, but how do I actually do it? What I am about to share with you is a simple fact of life that, if followed, will change the very fabric of who you are-not only in your personal life, but in all aspects of your life. Your thoughts control your actions. Your actions control your habits. Your habits control your lifestyle. Read it again. And again. Let's look at this as we apply it to a real world situation:

1. Thoughts of not wanting to be alone or face the emotional pain of losing someone; cause people to
2. Repeat actions of being unhappy
3. Created a series of bad habits rooted in distraction and the fear of loss. These series of events could create a lifestyle that is miserable, dysfunctional and unhealthy. The only way to stop the dysfunction and overcome the fear of change is to break the cycle.

Once you are aware of your actions and how they affect your life, you can replace your old choices with new, healthier ones. And in just a short period of time, these new actions will create new habits, leaving you feeling better and heading in the right direction.