I am starting to feel for men. We introduce sex toys into the bedroom and what happens? The girl gets a rotating, gyrating, pulsing, vibrating gadget pet that stimulates her, and does dishes in the kitchen. A bottle of lube means she does not even have to get aroused to get started.
All the work is done for her. The poor guy is putting on some contraption he has to tie around his genitals to make him last longer. How did this world of sex get so one-sided? Is not this a mans world? I am not complaining because I am a girl. I am just saying. I asked a guy friend why women get so much help with their orgasm and men do not and his only reply was, "We do it all for the ladies." And sure, I get it.
Men are happy to just be invited. But is that fair? So I am scouring the sex shoppe and looking for male-friendly (in the most literal definition) toys and how to bring those into the bedroom. Anything like a penis ring can be great for him, but it is mainly great for her. I mean what sex toys are really JUST FOR HIM? What can a man have that is all his own in the sex toy marathon? Well, I got answers!
* Strokers: Strokers are malleable, hand-held toys that wrap around the male's member. Some have enhancements like ribbing, pearls, or other texturing. Many are molded after adult film actors (UR3 or CyberSkin for example). Some vibrate. What a dildo is for women, the stroker is for men. Simulates the real thing. Often adds some technology. It can be shaped like a female reproductive organ, mouth, or anus -even shaped like a woman. How could this pretend orifice work for a couple?
For starters, you can bring the art of petting back into play. I know for me, petting has not really won me any points since prom. They are fine and all, but most men want a warm, moist place to go now that they have past puberty. The stroker adds the warm, moist sensation (with friction and a dollop of lube) so you can now get nostalgic about your teen years in the back seats of cars. In fact, this might be fun to take into the back seat of the car while parked at a drive-in or secluded parking lot.
For oral sex, this means when the woman is getting tired, a lubricated stroker can take over for a few minutes without losing much sensation. Use the stroker to take a few minutes, rest up, and come back to the task at hand -so to speak. Finally, if you really want to go crazy with a stroker, you can put it anywhere on her body. Try positions that one of you may have been too tall for in the past by creating a unique vaginal geography.
If the stroker is between her knees, he may be able to lick her chest area with ease. It may seem like a weird game of tinkertoys at first, but you can really find some new ways to play with the help of strokers.
Female Reproductive Area Replicas: These are large prosthetic pleasure pieces. They are the vagina, crotch and a small section of thigh. Much like the strokers, they can be enhanced with vibration and texturing. These are amazing for one thing. Three-way sex. A menage-a-trois -while exciting- can be an emotional landmine. Use a realistic piece to role play the different activities you would do if another woman were in the room.
Afterward, you can leave it at the fantasy level or discuss points you felt uncomfortable, even if it was just a fake body part. You will be surprised how much you can learn about your own sexual boundaries with a little game of pretend. You will also be surprised how sexy it can be seeing your girlfriend show you what she would do with a woman.
Take notes. She may also using the demonstration to tell you what to do with her. Also, if the prosthetic female reproductive organ is angled just right, this can be a creative sex pillow. Have her hips on "her" hips and use it just like a wedge.
Adult Love Dolls: Dolls are not just for gag gifts. I am not sure if a $20 sex doll bought in a cardboard box has done anything for anyone. However, the higher ticket dolls can be quite the find. Again, this is best for 3-way role playing. Get creative. Watch your girl with the doll and let yourself be watched. Or try some three way positions before (or instead of) the real thing.
Tongue Vibes: Not the vibrating tongue! (Which is amazing, but that is another post). There are a dozen tongue vibes on the market that make your tongue vibrate when you perform oral pleasure. I think that explains it all, so I will stop right there.
Beads: Oral sex can get a lot better with some anal beads. Insert the beads slowly during play (lubricate, lubricate, lubricate). During oral, allow a little tug for some sensation. Then pull the beads out during orgasm. Slowly. This will intensify and prolong the orgasm. The perfect timing takes some practice. Try it a few times and learn the rhythm and pace of your lover's orgasm.
So there we go. There ARE toys for the boys. So ladies. let's add some of these items to our toy box. It's time we shared. It seems only right to give back to the men who try so hard to please us by Borg-ing out every once in a while. Wow, I made a Star Trek reference. |
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