<!DOCTYPE HTML PUBLIC '-//W3C//DTD HTML 4.01 Transitional//EN' 'http://www.w3.org/TR/html4/loose.dtd'>; <html><head><title>Article Directory Online : Free Online Article Submission - Articleonlinedirectory | How To Have Greater Emotional Intimacy</title></head><body><h3>How To Have Greater Emotional Intimacy</h3><br /><br />By: <br /><br /><p>Intimacy means being connected. Sexual intimacy is physical; emotional intimacy is connection of mind, heart and spirit. Great *** is a blast. If you ve got it, count your lucky stars but it s not enough to sustain a relationship. For that, you need emotional intimacy and it s the death by a thousand cuts destruction of that fundamental requirement that is the downfall to many relationships. Great emotional intimacy is the most rewarding aspect of being a couple but to have it, you must pay attention to the basics:<br /> <br /> Be 10,000 trustworthy. You will not share private thoughts or make yourself vulnerable to someone you don t trust. If you share an embarrassing moment or dream and your sweetheart makes fun or pours cold water on that dream, you ll think twice before opening up again. Nothing is more devastating than trusting the person you love and having that trust betrayed. Nothing is more conducive to emotional intimacy than knowing you are safe in sharing your innermost thoughts, wishes and dreams.<br /> <br /> Don t remodel. If your sweetheart said, Honey, you would be a better person if you morphed into my image of perfection so here s a list of things you should change, you re not likely to say, Thanks! I ll get on that right away. Attempting to remodel your partner is tantamount to saying you re better. Superiority and emotional intimacy are mutually exclusive.<br /> <br /> Respect differences. Differences make us interesting but they don t make us right. I can t imagine that anyone loves beige and finds eggplant scrumptious, but am I justified in calling a beige loving eggplant eater wrong? Of course not. Talk about your differences, debate your differences, but never make your sweetheart wrong for holding an opinion or point of view that differs from yours. To do so is to say you re smarter than your partner. Judgmental and emotional intimacy are mutually exclusive.<br /> <br /> Be nice. You re thinking, Duh! Fair enough. But it s worth the reminder that nice goes beyond holding the door, refilling your sweetheart s wine glass, not interrupting, and common courtesy. Being nice includes:<br /> <br /> o Looking for ways to make your sweetheart s day and life better.<br /> o Looking the other way during your partner s self indulgently bad behavior<br /> o Stepping up to the plate when it s time for the talk <br /> o Being supportive<br /> o Being responsive to your partner s wishes, needs and desires<br /> o Showing your love in word and deed<br /> <br /> In short, being nice means demonstrating that you cherish your sweetheart. Inconsiderate and emotional intimacy are mutually exclusive.<br /> <br /> Know yourself. The more you know about yourself, the more you ll be able to change what s not working and the less likely you ll be to project your self perception onto your partner. Examples:<br /> <br /> o If you bicker over every decision, big or small, perhaps it s not because your partner is argumentative, but because you are excessively competitive and need to make a change.<br /> o If you hear constant criticism, perhaps the problem is your self esteem. If your sweetie says, The rice is salty, and you hear, You re a terrible cook, it s time to work on your self perception instead of complaining that your sweetheart is critical.<br /> <br /> Blissful ignorance and emotional intimacy are mutually exclusive.<br /> <br /> Be generous and forgiving. Your sweetheart will hurt and disappoint you, sometimes thoughtlessly and sometimes only through the filter of your self perception. The flip side is true, too. Be generous and be forgiving because you ll need the same when you screw up. Unforgiving and emotional intimacy are mutually exclusive.<br /> <br /> The relationship crown jewel of emotional intimacy is achieved by laser beam focus on being, doing, and saying those things that build and sustain it. Start today to have the emotional intimacy that is the hallmark of a truly great relationship.</p> <br /><br /><b>Author Resource:-></b> Shela Dean is a relationship coach, speaker and Amazon bestselling author of Frequent Foreplay Miles, Your Ticket to Total Intimacy, available through <a href=http://Amazon.com title=http://Amazon.com>http://Amazon.com</a> and other book sellers. For more information, visit her website at <a href=http://www.FrequentForeplayMiles.com title=FrequentForeplayMiles.com>http://www.FrequentForeplayMiles.com</a>.<br /><br /><b>Article From</b> <a href='http://www.articleonlinedirectory.com/'>Article Directory Online : Free Online Article Submission - Articleonlinedirectory</a><br /></body></html>
